If you asked me a few years ago if I would ever live abroad I would have been definite in my answer that no I couldn’t ever see me doing it. I absolutely love vacations, travel and exploring new places. I’m always planning ideas for our next trip but moving away from family, friends and where I grew up wasn’t on my radar!
Our life was very settled. We had just finishing a complete rebuild of two farm cottages into our ‘forever’ home. I’d spent a year of my life supervising builders and workmen who’d created the house we’d always wanted. The cottages were my husband’s childhood home. We’d come full circle! My childhood dream come true was standing in his field outside. My horse Eddie. I’d spent my childhood and teenage years desperate to have my own horse to finally have that dream realised at age37. We were lucky that Eddie could live in the field at the bottom of our garden. We had the life we’d always wanted.
When the chance to move to Bentonville, Arkansas, United States arose with my husband’s work we knew we had to take this adventure. Opportunities like this don’t present themselves every day and after much consideration we made the decision to swap our British life for the American version. We had so many emotions from excitement, nervous anticipation through to fear of the unknown and the sadness to leave family and friends.
Moving to the United States has given us so many great experiences on a much deeper level possible than just visiting on a vacation. A year and a half on and we still learn new things every day. My girls learn the most new things being submerged in school and they teach us in turn. They are a great reference point for us. They have thrived living in Arkansas- maybe it’s all the sunshine! (The sunny weather is definitely a positive).
Moving away provides the occasion to discover who your true friends really are. Simply, they are the people who not only keep in contact with you but you keep the contact the other way round too. Undoubtedly social media and my lifeline of video calling helps keep those connections frequent and real. I still video call my family every day! Just for a chat and to say hi – that way I can see them everyday. It still will not replace my longing to give my little niece who’s nearly one year old a hug each time I see her but she is however a video call expert!We’ve also been very fortunate to have made friends here who are in my true friend category too. Being able to have found those people give a definite quality to life. Without true friends, conversations can seem that they take place on a superficial level and deeper conversation is very important for everyone’s wellbeing.
To have been able to give our family this experience is priceless. Sometimes in life you have to take chances whether big or small. I was always cautious before but I’ve learnt that opportunities shouldn’t be overlooked. Take the chance and try something new. You never quite know what will happen or where you’ll end up. Maybe you’ll find yourself across an ocean somewhere!